I just feel like everybody should be in love. lol. me, in my emotions. lol. ignore it. and romance is a part of life. you’re a bassist, you ought to know better. and my brother got a laptop… I got an external hard drive… I understand.
Out of most of my followers I’m actually pretty surprised that you’re so optimistic, it makes me hopeful. :] And yea lol I’m a bassist, but understanding something isn’t the same as having it, or wanting it at a certain time. Still, these are things that I do want in the long run like everyone else. :)
Waiting for the night to fall Hoping that you might just call I don’t want to fight at all Without you there’s no life at all Least not one that’s worth living Impossible to envision We move with such precision That it is labeled forbidden We inspire tension of the sexual persuasion Now let me blow your mind like intellectual invasion I need it I want it Gotta have it at this moment You got it and flaunt it My heart & soul is haunted
Affection is only one ingredient of love. To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients—care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication. […]
Most of us learn to think of love as a feeling. When we feel deeply drawn to someone, we cathect with them; that is, we invest feelings or emotion in them. That process of investment wherein a loved one becomes important to us is called “cathexis.” In his book* [M. Scott] Peck rightly emphasizes that most of us “confuse cathecting with loving.” We all know how often individuals feeling connected to someone through the process of cathecting insist that they love the other person even if they are hurting or neglecting them. Since their feeling is that of cathexis, they insist what they feel is love.
When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another’s spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. Love and abuse can not coexist. Abuse and neglect are, by definition, the opposite of nurturance and care.
bell hooks - all about love, 2000 [*M. Scott Peck - The Road Less Travled, 1978] (via jenniferbundock)